Becoming Not A Mother

There is a kind of sadness in not wanting the things that give so many other people their life’s meaning. ” ― Sheila Heti, Motherhood

What follows the choice not to become a mother? When you decide not to become a mother there is no word for what you are becoming. But not becoming a parent does not simply mean a continuation of the status quo. Becoming Not A Mother is an exploration of self care rituals and healing through feelings of loss, alienation, and unworthiness in the wake of my decision to not have children. 

“Flowers”, 18x24in, C-Print, 2020 

“Home”, 18x24in, C-Print, 2020

"Six Months After He Left", 18x24in, C-Print, 2020

"Six Months After He Left II", 18x24in, C-Print, 2020

"Becoming Not A Mother", 8.5x5.5in softcover perfect-bound book, 2020

"Becoming Not A Mother", single page from the softcover, perfect-bound book, 2020

"Becoming Not A Mother", single page from the softcover, perfect-bound book, 2020

"Becoming Not A Mother", double spread from softcover, perfect-bound book, 2020

"Becoming Not A Mother", double spread from softcover, perfect-bound book, 2020

"Snowshoeing with Devon", 18x24in C-Print, 2020

"Becoming Not A Mother", double spread from softcover, perfect-bound book, 2020

Installation View | Burrard Arts Foundation, Vancouver, 2020

Installation View | Burrard Arts Foundation, Vancouver, 2020

Becoming Not A Mother was made with the support of the Burrard Arts Foundation and the Canada Council for the Arts.

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